Two Ways of Dealing With an Insubordinate Wife
Chris Schaefer ©2010
Before we examine the two ways of handling an insubordinate wife, we must first ask a question:
18 Whosoever illigetimately divorces his wife, and
marries another, commits adultery: and
whoever marries her that is undivorced [Aramaic: sh’bikta]
from her husband commits adultery.
11 I say then, have they [Yahudim] stumbled that they should fall
forever? Let it not be: but rather through their [unbelieving Yahudah's] fall
salvation has gone out to the nations, for to provoke them [Yahudah]
12 Now if their [unbelieving Yahudah's] temporal fall brought riches to this age,
and the diminishing of their believing numbers
brought riches to the nations; how much more the fullness
of their return from blindness?
13 For I speak to you nations, because I am the emissary
to the nations, I magnify my work by explaining this.
14 If by any means I may provoke to emulation those
who are of my flesh, and might save some of them.
15 For if their temporal setting aside be the reconciling of
this world, what shall the receiving of them [Yahudah] back be,
but life from the dead?
9 Efrayim gets it while Judah is blinded. But in the end
times both houses start seeing clearly.
10 From Judah.
11 If Judah’s blindness brought life to Efrayim, how
much more will Judah's regeneration bring greater life
in the kingdom?
When Paulo is speaking of "those who are of his own flesh, he is clearly speaking of the tribes of Benyamin combined with Yahudah. So it is clear that Yehoshua's provoking of jealousy in the older sister of Yahudah (sister-wife as seen in Yechezqel/Ezekiel 23and Yirmehayu/Jerimiah 3) is actually working out both Yahudah’s and Ephrayim’s collective salvations!
16 “And other sheep I have, which are not of this fold:
them also I must bring in, and they shall hear My voice;
and there shall be one fold, and one Shepherd.”
3 A plain reference to the other fold, or flock of Yisrael,
Efrayim-Yisrael, that Yehoshua says He must bring in by
command of the Father. Note that even before He died
and rose, He had two existing Yisraelite flocks, not
one. Through His mission as the Good Shepherd, both
folds will become one.
Take notice: “other sheep not of this fold” certainly is a reference to another group. Significantly, He emphasized that the other sheep are the ones that WILL hear His voice, meaning they will actually follow His direction and headship. If at times Yahudah (or more accurately, the unbeliving part of Yahudah) was refusing to submit to Yehhoshua's headship, then at least Ephrayim was willing. Also, the note says that the “folds will become one”-- future tense. As of now, they are not yet.
Maaseh Schlichim / Acts 13:42-47
42 And when the Yahudim had gone out of the
synagogue, the non-Yahudim begged that these words
might be proclaimed to them the next Shabbat.
43 Now when the congregation was dismissed, many of
the Yahudim and religious proselytes followed Paulos and
Bar-Nava: who were speaking to them, and persuaded
them to continue in the favor of YHWH.
44 And the next Shabbat almost the entire city came
together to hear the word of YHWH.
45 But when the Yahudim saw the multitudes,
filled with envy, and spoke against those things, which
were spoken by Shaul, contradicting and blaspheming
46 Then Paulos and Bar-Nava grew bold, and said, It was
necessary that the word of YHWH should first have been
spoken to you: but seeing you put it away from you, and
judge yourselves unworthy of everlasting life, look,
we turn to the nations.
47 For this is what YHWH commanded us, saying, I have
set you to be a light of the nations that you should be for
salvation to the ends of the earth.
5 Efrayim in the nations.
See, if one “wife” is jealous of another-- tough! It’s really for her own good in the
long run!! In the renewed covenant, it is apparently YHWH's and Yehoshua's method saving the most and saving them most thoroughly.
Maaseh Schlichim / Acts 21:27-30
27 And when the seven days were almost ended, the
Yahudim who were from Asia Minor, when they saw him [Paulos]
in the Beit HaMikdash, stirred up all the people, and laid
hands on him,
28 Crying out, "Men of Yisrael, help: This is the man, that
teaches all men everywhere against the people of Yisrael,
and the Torah, and this set apart place: and furthermore
he brought Greeks
into the Beit HaMikdash, and has
polluted this set apart place."
29 For they had been seen before with him in the city
Trophimos the Ephesian, whom they supposed that Paulos
had brought into the Beit HaMikdash.
30 And all the city was moved, and the people ran
together: and they took Paulos, and dragged him out of the
Beit HaMikdash: and immediately shut the doors.
More of the older sister being jealous of the younger. Not a pleasant situation,
Eventually jealousy will come to an end. We need to trust YHWH’s omniscience of
the greater good:
31 For this cause shall a man leave his abba and eema,
and shall be joined to his wife, and the two
shall be echad flesh.
32 This is a great sod [mystery]: but I speak concerning the
Moshiach and the Yisraelite congregation.
5 There’s the pashat, or literal understanding. Two
people becoming one.
6 Mystery? Yes. The pashat/literal understanding is the
two persons becoming one. The secret behind the
literal is that on the metaphorical level, in Yahshua the two individual houses
become one. That is the mystery behind the uniting of
man and woman. Yehoshua and Yisrael become one in
the remez, or hint level of understanding. But in the
sod, or secret level as Yehoshua marries Yisrael, both
houses remarry each other, thereby establishing
peace. That is also known as “the mystery” of the
Each sister being echad with her Husband, will by default be
echad with each other (similar to spokes being united to the hub on a wheel). So
the main point is that the jealousies will end when both are echad with Yehoshua.
How else are two brides to be counted as one collective bride?
So how does this apply on a pragmatic level for us humans? If a wife A refuses to be under her husband's headship, and if the said husband is following the model of how Messiah dealt with the Yahudim (the Yahudim who would not submit to His headship), then instead of divorcing the insubordinate wife (A), the husband takes on rival wife B. When the insubordinate wife A sees how the rival wife B is truly echad with her husband, then she (wife A) ought to come to her senses and likewise submit to her husband's headship. Some might say, "Oh, that is so unfair..." but remember, the chronically insubordinate wife A brought this on herself, so now she needs to accept the the consequences of her own actions and then willingly submit to her husband, and in doing so, likewise love her co-wife (wife B).
Now, before anyone objects and says that this methodology is "so barbaric", consider the following. Yehoshua said he came for the lost sheep of Israel. How many believers are there who are not biological Israelites? Perhaps you are such a person: a believer who is not a biological Israelite. If so, you had better thank Yehoshua that He sent the gospel to the gentiles in addition to the Yahudim and the other tribes of Israel. If He wasn't metaphorically polygynous in this way, there would be no gospel for non-Hebrews! The ONLY reason that gentiles can be redeemed, is because of Yehoshua's metaphorical polygyny.